Telling your partner about your pregnancy and potential choices is entirely up to you. However, there are many reasons why it could be a good idea, especially for the future of your relationship.

We’ll cover reasons you may want to tell your partner about your pregnancy and plans, as well as one reason you might not want to tell him.

In the meantime, as you think about whether or not to loop in your partner, you can visit The Open Door to confirm your pregnancy with pregnancy testing and an ultrasound. These free services will give you a clear picture of your pregnancy so you can make informed choices about your health.

Reasons to Tell Your Partner 

Here are a few reasons why you may want to tell your partner about your current situation and that you’re contemplating abortion.

To Continue Your Relationship

Keeping secrets does not lead to a healthy relationship, especially ones as enormous as pregnancy and abortion. It could break your partner’s trust if he finds out what happened without his knowledge, and if you keep it to yourself, it could drive you crazy.

Open, honest communication can lead to the best outcome for your relationship and mental health.

To Receive More Support 

Your partner can’t effectively support you without knowing the situation. If you let him know of your pregnancy and current situation, he can support you emotionally and in other ways as well.

To Make a Pregnancy Decision Together

It’s lonely to make a huge, life-changing decision about your pregnancy by yourself. Telling your partner invites him to share his opinions and help you think through your options together.

To Be Fair

Even if you currently have a rocky relationship or one without a future, it’s fair to let your partner know of your pregnancy because he played a role in it. He deserves to know what happened. Imagine yourself in his shoes—wouldn’t you want to know?

One Reason Not to Tell Your Partner

He’s Abusive or Dangerous

If your partner is abusive—physically, emotionally, verbally, or in other ways—or prone to outbursts, you do not need to tell him. You need to protect your safety first.

Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline for help when in an abusive relationship. You deserve to feel safe, especially during pregnancy.

We’re Here to Support You

The Open Door is here to be a resource for you and your partner. Schedule a free appointment today to verify your pregnancy details and move forward.

We can discuss your situation, listen, and offer information on every option because we care about you.

The Open Door does not provide or refer for abortions.